I have been reading my friend Adrian's Blog..."Off My Blog" for a little while now...Its a good read for anyone who's not been there before and I highly recommend it...But recently he's made some comments about his family's and society's desire for someone his age to be married and settled down behind a picket fence with his ration of 2.5 children.
After reading the comments made by others out there, it's clear that Adrian's family aren't the only ones who feel that they want their children, sisters, brothers, sons or daughters to follow along... Is this because we want our children to follow in the "norm".. Like a string of duckling after its mother. And if for some reason we step outside this box there must surely be something wrong? This seems to be one of thoughs "Damned if you do or Damned if you don't" situations.
If we are lucky enough to find that life partner by the age of 21-25 and settle down, and have the presence of mind at that age to know exactly what we want, and have the maturity to actually go looking for it.......Then wonderful! But what if like so many others at that age we don't know for sure what we want. We are still searching for the thing that's makes us feel like "This is Me". Should we still rush and settle for the first sort of kind of person that we think we might be able to tolerate for what...ETERNITY?
I maybe old fashioned and maybe I haven't the clue or the experience to be talking about this yet, but I feel like marriage is a forever thing. If that's not what your wanting for you life, then marriage probably isn't the path you want to take. Has it become more socially acceptable to be Divorced now....Instead of single and just not ready or to not have found that right person?...If so that's kind of sad....And slightly unhealthy. Maybe I'm a hopeless romantic....NO...I will say HOPEFUL ROMANTIC...Because I believe that there are worse things than being single. Yes, I want something special with someone someday. But I'm willing to wait. Because I truly believe when the time is right I will know. How will I know this? Because like with other decisions in my life...I will feel at peace....
17 comments:
Marry me?
I thought we were already engaged to be engaged...
LOL!
Ive decided to take the next step. It'll take our relationship to the next level.
Besides, Ive already impregnated you, it seemed the right thing to do.
Adrian...LOL......Well I guess your guys are some champion swimmers then...Im totally impressed...But I thought you wanted to be the one to bear MY Children...Isnt that what you said?
We are still nameing them after Stu tho right?
JEN: Absolutely. But when in a committed relationship, couples need to share their burdens equally.
What better way to show your love than to bear my children with me, as I bear yours?
If you ask why I dont have a bump after a few months, Im going with miscarriage...
Show the LURVE.
And as for swimmers?
YES
Thuper Thperm. : )
Adrian..LOL As long as we are sharing everything...Honestly tho..I always saw you as the guy who placed the orders, not big on delivery...Probably a hold over from a previous job...(Debonairs)
Under Promise and Over Deliver baby. ALWAYS.
May I take your order please?
NEXXXT!
yea... I know how that is. I was pushed... it ruined me. Now, this giy (me) who was sappy and wanted to fall in love more then anything has become just what I am today. Typical. I never used to be typical.
dreadcow...LOL
Adrian..I LURVE YOU TOO
Awwwww... I lurve YOU.
Van....Sounds like your not the only one in that boat..Thanks for the comments.
Augustus-Reed....I do not think your odd..In fact if your single and are happy that way...then I think thats great..If your single because your waiting for the right person to come along even better..It takes more self displine to wait sometimes than it does to jump in to a relationship just because you can..
mlwhitt...Thank you for the nice comment..As for the display picture...My friend Adrian helped me set up my profile when I started blogging..he choose the pic...and when I figure out how he did it...I will change it..until then...thanks and sorry...lol
As you probably know from my blog I'm a hopeful romantic looking for that right one, although I'm kinda ready to find the perfect one. I refuse to settle.
C. E. Farmer...I agree with you 100%. If you are the type of person who wants to find the right person then..I dont think thats something you can just do over night..and it takes time...You're right DO NOT settle..its your life
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