I honestly believe some people would have been better off being raised by wolves. This is a good example of such a situation.
A 47 year old father and I use the term "father" loosely...since it only applies to the mans biology and not his parenting skills....A 47 year old father gave his 15 year old son some powerful prescription drugs because he wanted to show the boy how to "party right".
This genius who was arrested on Friday is now being charged with third degree murder in the death of his son who died of an accidental overdose in June. According to witnesses the "father" had showed his son how to crush up and snort pills like oxycodone and the heroin substitute methadone.
What an incredible father-son bonding moment that must have been. How proud he must be knowing he was able to show his 15 year old son how to party like a rock star right before he died.
The father who had originally told police he kept those medications locked up so no one could get to them was caught on tape later telling another story to his sons friends....where he said he admittedly gave the drugs to his son to teach him how to party.
I realize that there are certain criteria that they follow to determine the degree of murder a person is charged with....But I say this guy is being cut to much slack. I think third degree murder is too good for him. IN FACT....this is one of those situations I say we forgo the trial formality completely and just strap him in a chair and throw the switch. In fact in this particular case Id volunteer to do it.
Maybe that might sound harsh to some...But this is the way I see it. You come into this world not of your own making. Your PARENTS choices are what bring you into being. At the moment of birth you are still given no choices of your own...You are still completely dependant on your parents for your care and your total survival. It is they you count on for food, shelter and protection from the outside world. But when a parent betrays that by abusing the child, verbally, sexually, physically or morally...then at that point the parent is no better than the monsters that they are supposed to be keeping at bay.
I realize that some people might have had less than idyllic childhoods....BUT there does come a point in time where you have to become an adult, making adult choices and no longer blame your parents poor choices for the person you have chosen to be......However at 15 you still don't yet have all the skills it takes to make those choices.
This man doesn't deserve mercy. I have none for him. And if there is a hell I hope he rots in it.
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f like this always astounds me, but it is common, I think. Here - in many family circles - a typical parent-child bonding moment is when the parent can take their child to the bar and get them drunk.
scaramouche jones
I grew up around friends who had parents who wanted to be the cool parents and let their kids drink and throw parties. At the time I used to think WOW..how lucky the are to have parents like that.
But now I wonder. Is it better to be your kids parent or your kids pal? They have enough friends telling them what they want to hear and people willing to party with them.
I think its more important to have someone there who will tell you what you NEED to hear instead.
Also..going drinking with a 21 year old kid is alittle different than giving serious drugs to your 15 year old teenage son.
Again ... more reason than ever to require a license for kids. You should be sterile until you prove you are responsible.
Knot
True. And I agree on the licence to have kids. Either that or a full set of exams.
knot
Im not sure I agree. Being intelligent enough to pass a test to get a license doesnt insure that a person can raise a child into a healthy adult.
As a matter of fact...the amount of money one has, or the amount of education or social status can NOT gaurentee that you are a good parent.
So what does? I dont know. There have been thousands of How To books written about parenting and from everything Ive been able to observe...Most parents figure it out as they go. There is no formula for rasing a good child.
Ive never heard of anyone saying that caring about that childs welfare above that of your own, Or teaching a child right from wrong or even giving discipline hand in hand with love and affection are bad for any child. Maybe thats the base to build on.
Sick, sick, sick.
I agree with your comments to scaramouche, parents are meant to be parents. Nothing wrong with being friendly to your kids, but you have a responsibility to your kids to be the parent in the relationship... be the MATURE ONE.
Think of it as a drivers license for kids. It makes perfect sense. You get a license that basically teaches you to feed, clothe, educate and not hurt the kid. Simple. But it allows the state to take the kid away or lock you up easier if you screw up like this guy. Also you can't get state services for your kid if you don't have a license. And you can't get credit on your state taxes for the kid if you don't have a license. All in all it just makes it easier for the state to take your kid away if you are a screw up.
Texas has had a rash of problems with Child Protective Services lately. And a recent raid of the polygamists has been because of child abuse. All would have been made easier to protect the children if licensing had been in place.
The problem with the law and children is that the law views children as property not as humans. Until the law recognizes children as humans they have to be treated as property and you can teach and do just about anything with them.
Changing the laws isn't necessarily the answer, changing the people is the solution.
Knot
Interesting points. I don't believe parents should be best friends with their kids. Of course I also don't think it should be like Victorian times when kids were sent away to school, to be seen one week a year at Christmas. It's been my experience with people I know that trying to be your kid's best pal makes discipline impossible - and kids need discipline to evolve a balanced, moral life...
:)
As unkind as it may be to say it, since this kid was carrying his father's genetics and cultural background (both nature and nurture) getting him out of the gene pool was probably a good thing. Too bad someone didn't take the dad out 30 years ago.....
(yes yes, I know that is heartless, cruel, in human, and I am judging people without knowing their situation.)
exmi
I dont think its a question of being cruel or heartless as much as it is facing a very probable reality.
The truth of the matter is...your most likely right. That kid because of the examples he was shown and the parents he had would have probably turned out like a carbon copy of those who created him.
A kid like that probably doesnt have much of a chance to turn out any other way.
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